What is your role in your family? To your immediate family? To your comminity ? To your State and to your Country . And to tyour world ? To your Universe? If we go up higher and higher , our role deminished. Finally, we are only a spec of dust in the Universe. When its life burns out, it will become a spec of dust. Mixed with the current Haze.
It so dfficult to answer the question " What is your prupose in life? " To us , it is important , to your immediate family , you are important but to the Universe, you are faceless.
What is our role and purpose in a micro scopic level ? We live and our purpose is to live and not to hurt anybody. Let it pass with no regrets.
Namaste.
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
The money stays here !
I went for a lunch with a colleague, R today. On the way, he told me a story as I drove my car to the Restuarant.
He told me that his nephew died a few weeks ago and he suspected that his nephew just dozed off as it was late in the night or was texting his friend when he was driving home. He died in an accident . From the autopsy report, he was not intoxicated and his blood was free of drugs. R , help to pay for the funeral expenses of his nephew.
He continued to tell me that he is also supporting his niece who is pursueing a medical course in KL and it is a five years degree course. Apart from that, he also suppor his own brother who is suffering from a heart disease. He told me that "Our money stays here after we passes on". He is wise and everyone of us know this fact but we remained thrifty and selfish with our money. We think we can live eternally and will be well forever.
We keep forgetting this wisdom and we only open our eyes or ears when someone remind us and after awhile , it would be back to normal. We can live forever. How wrong can we be " Life is so uncertain and unpredictable but we discount these factors as we always see the bright side to keep us happy. What is wrong with us?
I remembered a story about a good husband who keeps buying gifts for his wife when he was on a trip and each time, after his wife received the gifts , she would unpacked the gifts and keep it all in her cupboard. She will tell her husband that she will use it another day. Unfortunately, she got a disease and passes on. After her funeral , her husband open the cupboard and found that all the gifts were properly wrapped up and unused.
There is a Chinese saying " old things don't go , new things don't come". It means that we should us the things we have and replaces it when it is worn out.
So, if we do not use the things , give it away. Let the things be useful. For example, last Saturday, I was looking into my cabinet for something useful to give to my niece and I found a neatly wrapped packet and took it out and open the wrappers , the cover of the box has already melted and became sticky. I remembered that once I had a shoe which I kept it for special occasions. It was an expensvie pair of shoe and when I took it out, the leather shoe broke into pieces. My wife have a similar experience, her pure leather beg which she kept kept for sometime, just broke up in pieces when she wants to use on a holiday trip. We should know that everything is perishable and there is a definite life span for everything.
Things are mend to be used and that is why , there are cheap sales every season. The businessmen knows that it is better to sell the things at a deep discout rather than seeing it breaking up in pieces. Things we do not use , does not mean that it will last forever or a life time.
The message here is that we should not only knows how to keep on increasing your wealth at the expenses of our health. We have to be fair to ourself and pampered ourself sometimes. If we still have the excess after our normal expenses , we should do some charity rather than let it lie in the banks. It is important to be aware that our money stays here after we passes on.
Namaste.
He told me that his nephew died a few weeks ago and he suspected that his nephew just dozed off as it was late in the night or was texting his friend when he was driving home. He died in an accident . From the autopsy report, he was not intoxicated and his blood was free of drugs. R , help to pay for the funeral expenses of his nephew.
He continued to tell me that he is also supporting his niece who is pursueing a medical course in KL and it is a five years degree course. Apart from that, he also suppor his own brother who is suffering from a heart disease. He told me that "Our money stays here after we passes on". He is wise and everyone of us know this fact but we remained thrifty and selfish with our money. We think we can live eternally and will be well forever.
We keep forgetting this wisdom and we only open our eyes or ears when someone remind us and after awhile , it would be back to normal. We can live forever. How wrong can we be " Life is so uncertain and unpredictable but we discount these factors as we always see the bright side to keep us happy. What is wrong with us?
I remembered a story about a good husband who keeps buying gifts for his wife when he was on a trip and each time, after his wife received the gifts , she would unpacked the gifts and keep it all in her cupboard. She will tell her husband that she will use it another day. Unfortunately, she got a disease and passes on. After her funeral , her husband open the cupboard and found that all the gifts were properly wrapped up and unused.
There is a Chinese saying " old things don't go , new things don't come". It means that we should us the things we have and replaces it when it is worn out.
So, if we do not use the things , give it away. Let the things be useful. For example, last Saturday, I was looking into my cabinet for something useful to give to my niece and I found a neatly wrapped packet and took it out and open the wrappers , the cover of the box has already melted and became sticky. I remembered that once I had a shoe which I kept it for special occasions. It was an expensvie pair of shoe and when I took it out, the leather shoe broke into pieces. My wife have a similar experience, her pure leather beg which she kept kept for sometime, just broke up in pieces when she wants to use on a holiday trip. We should know that everything is perishable and there is a definite life span for everything.
Things are mend to be used and that is why , there are cheap sales every season. The businessmen knows that it is better to sell the things at a deep discout rather than seeing it breaking up in pieces. Things we do not use , does not mean that it will last forever or a life time.
The message here is that we should not only knows how to keep on increasing your wealth at the expenses of our health. We have to be fair to ourself and pampered ourself sometimes. If we still have the excess after our normal expenses , we should do some charity rather than let it lie in the banks. It is important to be aware that our money stays here after we passes on.
Namaste.
The Devil and the Angel
This subject have been on the portal news after Dr Mahatir’s statement that it is better to deal with the devil that we know rather than the Angel, we do not know. At least , we know how bad it has been or how corrupted is our system. Like when China took over Hong Kong, the China Government assured that “ the dances & parties will continue , the horse races as usual “.
Yeah, it maybe so. But sometimes, we can see clearly who is the Devil and who is the Evil.
As I have written before in an article, “ Can lovers remained friends after the relationship ends “? In my Yoga class, only a class of 15 members , we could see the existence of the Devil and the Angel.
There was a dating couple . The male is a divorcee while the lady was an innocent SYT. They met in our Yoga class and they got attached. He began to sent her to the Yoga class every day and we were like a family after a couple of years as yogis. One day, something change, they broke up. Both of them started to come to the class in separate cars but there was tension when we did the Yoga. The positive vibes was lacking in the class and I could feel some sense of uneasiness.
Then, the man became the Devil and start to befriend another SYT and begin to sent her to the class despite the presence of his old flame. This incident makes me feel even more uneasy as the Devil should not be doing such things out of respect for her ex-flame. If we are human, we cannot be seeking revenge through such kind of act.
Yes, we do not know what is happening between us . The Angel could be the Devil or the Devil could be the Angel. What’s ever is happening , it is a complete taboo to further deepen the hurt of another fellow human being even if he or she is a Devil. It is a thing , a gentleman would never do. The best thing to do is to fade away and let time heals.
I cannot understand how can hatred go so deep to extend of killing or hurting each other. When the love is gone, let it go and let it be. Let the storm subside and there will be clear blue sky.
Namaste.
Monday, September 3, 2012
Kindness makes your heart stronger
1) Kindness makes us happier.
When we do something kind for someone else, we feel good. On a spiritual level, many people feel that this is because it is the right thing to do and so we're tapping into something deep and profound inside us that says, "This is who I am."
On a biochemical level, it is believed that the good feeling we get is due to elevated levels of the brain's natural versions of morphine and heroin, which we know as endogenous opioids. They cause elevated levels of dopamine in the brain, so we get a natural high, often referred to as "Helper's High."
2) Kindness gives us healthier hearts.
Acts of kindness are often accompanied by emotional warmth. Emotional warmth produces the hormone oxytocin in the brain and throughout the body. Of much recent interest is its significant role in the cardiovascular system.
Oxytocin causes the release of a chemical called nitric oxide in blood vessels, which dilates (expands) the blood vessels. This reduces blood pressure, and therefore oxytocin is known as a "cardio-protective" hormone because it protects the heart (by lowering blood pressure). The key is that acts kindness can produce oxytocin, and therefore kindness can be said to be cardio-protective.
3) Kindness slows aging.
Aging on a biochemical level is a combination of many things, but two culprits that speed the process are free radicals and inflammation, both of which result from making unhealthy lifestyle choices.
But remarkable research now shows that oxytocin (which we produce through emotional warmth) reduces levels of free radicals and inflammation in the cardiovascular system and thus slows aging at its source. Incidentally these two culprits also play a major role in heart disease, so this is also another reason why kindness is good for the heart.
There have also been suggestions in the scientific journals of the strong link between compassion and the activity of the vagus nerve. The vagus nerve, in addition to regulating heart rate, also controls inflammation levels in the body in what is known as the inflammatory reflex. One study that used the Tibetan Buddhist lovingkindness meditation found that kindness and compassion did, in fact, reduce inflammation in the body, mostly likely due to its effects on the vagus nerve.
4) Kindness makes for better relationships.
This is one of the most obvious points. We all know that we like people who show us kindness. This is because kindness reduces the emotional distance between two people, so we feel more "bonded." It's something that is so strong in us that it's actually a genetic thing. We are wired for kindness.
Our evolutionary ancestors had to learn to cooperate with one another. The stronger the emotional bonds within groups, the greater the chances of survival, so "kindness genes" were etched into the human genome.
Today, when we are kind to each other, we feel a connection, and new relationships are forged, or existing ones strengthened.
5) Kindness is contagious.
When we're kind, we inspire others to be kind, and it actually creates a ripple effect that spreads outwards to our friends' friends' friends -- to three degrees of separation. Just as a pebble creates waves when it is dropped in a pond, so acts of kindness ripple outwards, touching others' lives and inspiring kindness everywhere the wave goes.
A recent scientific study reported than an anonymous 28-year-old person walked into a clinic and donated a kidney. It set off a "pay it forward" type ripple effect where the spouses or other family members of recipients of a kidney donated one of theirs to someone else in need.
The "domino effect," as it was called in the New England Journal of Medicine report, spanned the length and breadth of the United States of America, where 10 people received a new kidney as a consequence of that anonymous donor.
Namaste
Sunday, September 2, 2012
This is your life
This afternon, I attended a " bon voyage" lunch for my favorite niece, J at the Starview restaurant. In life, there are two very sad events ie departure and death. I believed in the heart of my niece is that of a mix feeling. The thought of going away for further studies and starting a new independent life would be very exciting but at the same time, she should be abit scare leaving the familiar environment , the security and safety of home. Everyone have to make the choice of life they will eventually choose and the career path that they want to follow.
From Primary school, we just follow the system to study,study and study and pass the various public exams and graduate from Primary to Scondary and followed by High School and then . pre-U and then to varsity. Some of us will go to local public university and some will opted for overseas study. After getting the degree, then they will choose a career based on the degree. However, it is normal for graduates to opt to work in another fields without following their degree they have obtained.
The point I am trying to say is that these youngsters should not choose a career that they think will make us alot of money for themselves. This is the desire of the parents but it is more important to search their own hearts and check what do they really wanted to do in their life. If we choose a career which is their passion and interest, then they will be enjoying their life but if it is to make money and sacrifice their dreams, their life will be miserable. However, there are people who can start without a direction and gradually steer themselve to love their job.
In life , no one is absolutely right. The career is between the individual and themself and it is not a competition. Never choose a career out of the need to compete or to show off. This is dead wrong and at the end , it will be miserable.
Money, fame and status is the basic criteria in the recognition of achievement. Such achievement is very egotistic and selfish . But , again these factors make the world go round. The show must go on.
What need to be done , need to be done. For those adventurous people, stretch your winds and fly , see the world and enjoy yourself. If you like it, go for it but if you don't like it , tell yourself that there is always a choice . Don't go the full 10 yards before you make a decision. From the 1st yard, there is always a choice. This is a free world and do not feel shy to make an independent decision for yourself. You don't have to answer to anybody. This is your life.
i hope these young people would have courage to go through life and make good decisions for themself.
Namaste.
From Primary school, we just follow the system to study,study and study and pass the various public exams and graduate from Primary to Scondary and followed by High School and then . pre-U and then to varsity. Some of us will go to local public university and some will opted for overseas study. After getting the degree, then they will choose a career based on the degree. However, it is normal for graduates to opt to work in another fields without following their degree they have obtained.
The point I am trying to say is that these youngsters should not choose a career that they think will make us alot of money for themselves. This is the desire of the parents but it is more important to search their own hearts and check what do they really wanted to do in their life. If we choose a career which is their passion and interest, then they will be enjoying their life but if it is to make money and sacrifice their dreams, their life will be miserable. However, there are people who can start without a direction and gradually steer themselve to love their job.
In life , no one is absolutely right. The career is between the individual and themself and it is not a competition. Never choose a career out of the need to compete or to show off. This is dead wrong and at the end , it will be miserable.
Money, fame and status is the basic criteria in the recognition of achievement. Such achievement is very egotistic and selfish . But , again these factors make the world go round. The show must go on.
What need to be done , need to be done. For those adventurous people, stretch your winds and fly , see the world and enjoy yourself. If you like it, go for it but if you don't like it , tell yourself that there is always a choice . Don't go the full 10 yards before you make a decision. From the 1st yard, there is always a choice. This is a free world and do not feel shy to make an independent decision for yourself. You don't have to answer to anybody. This is your life.
i hope these young people would have courage to go through life and make good decisions for themself.
Namaste.
Saturday, September 1, 2012
TPF - Tong Pak Fu in Penang
There was a boycott call on the TPF on the internet when a TPF spokeswomen, a ceebrity chef from Hong Kong said that Penang Food is so difficult to consume and TPF is offering tasty delicacies to the local people. I think this statement was not appropriate and stupid even if she do not like the food in Penang. TPF have immediately issued an apology but the damage is already there.
As a brand name ambassador, the person should have the wisdom and grace as it represent the image of an organization. Any slip-short comments could bring enormous harm the brand's reputation. Can we say that TPF's food is lousy and expensive ? If the Chef have been smart and wise, she should know that the taste of food is very subjective., As I have mentioned in my earlier article, one man's food is another man's poison.
Based on my past experience, I have my own judgement and reservations. I find that the degree of sweetness, salt, bitter, spicy , etc vaires with each individual. No one person have the same liking. Just like our six senses,there is a combination of these factors to make up a recipe and finally its taste.
The six senses of hearing, taste, sight, smell, touch and thinking will determine the feeling and the final interpretation whether the food is good or bad. If any one of this factors change even in a slight degree, the final result could be different. As I have also mentioned that when managing human beings, the outcome is always unpredictable.
Why is the food is affected by these factors ? If you think logically, you will know and understand these factors.
1) Hearing : Why is this factor relevant ? Lets say you are eating a western cruisine but the music at the restaurant is playing a Chinese folk song. What would be the taste of the food ? It would be compromised isn't it?
2) For the factors like taste, smell and sight . It is the basic ingredients of a good food according to the culinary art.
3) What about touch and thinking : These are external factors but if you think carefully, if there is human touch when preparing the food , the taste will be different. The mood , passion and the well -being of the chef is very important at the point of preparing the food. If he or she is unwell or their mood is bad, the ultimate result will affect the taste of the food. So, what is the relevant of " thinking" ? This is one of the important factor. The upbring, influence and knowledge of an individual person will determine his or her likes and dislikes. For example, in Tibet, they serve the yak butter , to the Tibetians that is their basic diet and food but for foreigners, it has a very strange taste. Another example is Thailand's Tom Yam Kung, which is voted one of the best soup in the world but its spiceness is not tolerable by many people.
All variation of each factors will determine the outcome of the final taste of the food served. So, the TPF spokesperson is so silly and she did not understand the basics in serving food. So, TPF should immediately replace her before their business is damage by a stupid remark.
It is not the fault of TPF but the stupidity of one person. Lets not boycott TPF and give it a try to judge it yourself instaed of depriving yourself of this option.
I am not a qualified Chef or Food Critic and this is my personal experience based on the six principles in Buddhism. The basic awareness of our hearing, sight, taste, smell, touch and thinking. The control of our mind relating to these precepts will bring us enormous wisdom and benefits.
Namaste.
As a brand name ambassador, the person should have the wisdom and grace as it represent the image of an organization. Any slip-short comments could bring enormous harm the brand's reputation. Can we say that TPF's food is lousy and expensive ? If the Chef have been smart and wise, she should know that the taste of food is very subjective., As I have mentioned in my earlier article, one man's food is another man's poison.
Based on my past experience, I have my own judgement and reservations. I find that the degree of sweetness, salt, bitter, spicy , etc vaires with each individual. No one person have the same liking. Just like our six senses,there is a combination of these factors to make up a recipe and finally its taste.
The six senses of hearing, taste, sight, smell, touch and thinking will determine the feeling and the final interpretation whether the food is good or bad. If any one of this factors change even in a slight degree, the final result could be different. As I have also mentioned that when managing human beings, the outcome is always unpredictable.
Why is the food is affected by these factors ? If you think logically, you will know and understand these factors.
1) Hearing : Why is this factor relevant ? Lets say you are eating a western cruisine but the music at the restaurant is playing a Chinese folk song. What would be the taste of the food ? It would be compromised isn't it?
2) For the factors like taste, smell and sight . It is the basic ingredients of a good food according to the culinary art.
3) What about touch and thinking : These are external factors but if you think carefully, if there is human touch when preparing the food , the taste will be different. The mood , passion and the well -being of the chef is very important at the point of preparing the food. If he or she is unwell or their mood is bad, the ultimate result will affect the taste of the food. So, what is the relevant of " thinking" ? This is one of the important factor. The upbring, influence and knowledge of an individual person will determine his or her likes and dislikes. For example, in Tibet, they serve the yak butter , to the Tibetians that is their basic diet and food but for foreigners, it has a very strange taste. Another example is Thailand's Tom Yam Kung, which is voted one of the best soup in the world but its spiceness is not tolerable by many people.
All variation of each factors will determine the outcome of the final taste of the food served. So, the TPF spokesperson is so silly and she did not understand the basics in serving food. So, TPF should immediately replace her before their business is damage by a stupid remark.
It is not the fault of TPF but the stupidity of one person. Lets not boycott TPF and give it a try to judge it yourself instaed of depriving yourself of this option.
I am not a qualified Chef or Food Critic and this is my personal experience based on the six principles in Buddhism. The basic awareness of our hearing, sight, taste, smell, touch and thinking. The control of our mind relating to these precepts will bring us enormous wisdom and benefits.
Namaste.
What an evening ? - a minor accident
This morning I promised my daughter M that we will have a dinner at my old friend A's restaurant at PT, I went to my office in the afternoon to clear some matters and I cam back about 5pm+ and I took a short nap before dinner. My daughter M wake me up at 6.30pm and I felt abit tired , so I requested my wife to drive us to the dinner.
After getting out from my house, my dog, Brownie was staring at me and I played with her for a very short while as my wife back the car out of my house's driveway. As she open the electrnic gate, I caught hold of Brownie so that she would not run outside. After driving out of the driveway, my wife start to close the gate . M and myself ordered Brownie to hold still and not to follow us but once, we wer outside the gate, Brownie rushed out and she was between the gate and the wall , so I rushed forward to grap her and the electronic gate hit the side of my head and hurt my ear. The gate stopped as I fell backward after my left leg slide inside the drain cover. The drain cover have been loose for a few days now after the road sweeper removed it to clean the drain.
I have been bothered by the loose drain cover and I have told myself to fix it but it just did not happen. Maybe, the bruises on my leg from the drain cover and the slight cuts on my palm as a result of this mishap was mend to be. I always remembered a wise saying " with a twist of fate, our life will change". This is wisdom is very true and what is destined to happen, will happen , no matter what.
As I lay on the ground from the fall, two pairs of very strong hands came and try to pull me up but my leg was stuck between the drain cover and the pavement. After some adjustment, these two wonderful gentlemen managed to lift me up and I thanked them very much. These guys are strangers to me but they prompt act to help me , make me feel much better , knowing that there are such good and helpful people around. The show of love by these two guys is indeed wonderful and gracious.
My sacrifice to save Brownie was also an impromptu act but rather stupid way. I should have stop the gate instead of rushing in to save Brownie. Such kind of hasty act could created more trouble than help. But, It has happen , so be it and let that be a lesson to me.
All is well , ends well. I have thank my lucky star that only a minor bruiuse to my leg.
Namaste.
After getting out from my house, my dog, Brownie was staring at me and I played with her for a very short while as my wife back the car out of my house's driveway. As she open the electrnic gate, I caught hold of Brownie so that she would not run outside. After driving out of the driveway, my wife start to close the gate . M and myself ordered Brownie to hold still and not to follow us but once, we wer outside the gate, Brownie rushed out and she was between the gate and the wall , so I rushed forward to grap her and the electronic gate hit the side of my head and hurt my ear. The gate stopped as I fell backward after my left leg slide inside the drain cover. The drain cover have been loose for a few days now after the road sweeper removed it to clean the drain.
I have been bothered by the loose drain cover and I have told myself to fix it but it just did not happen. Maybe, the bruises on my leg from the drain cover and the slight cuts on my palm as a result of this mishap was mend to be. I always remembered a wise saying " with a twist of fate, our life will change". This is wisdom is very true and what is destined to happen, will happen , no matter what.
As I lay on the ground from the fall, two pairs of very strong hands came and try to pull me up but my leg was stuck between the drain cover and the pavement. After some adjustment, these two wonderful gentlemen managed to lift me up and I thanked them very much. These guys are strangers to me but they prompt act to help me , make me feel much better , knowing that there are such good and helpful people around. The show of love by these two guys is indeed wonderful and gracious.
My sacrifice to save Brownie was also an impromptu act but rather stupid way. I should have stop the gate instead of rushing in to save Brownie. Such kind of hasty act could created more trouble than help. But, It has happen , so be it and let that be a lesson to me.
All is well , ends well. I have thank my lucky star that only a minor bruiuse to my leg.
Namaste.
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