There are religious sayings that if we look at women with sex in mind , we are already committed an adultery. Why ? we have not done any harm to anybody ? It is only our dirty mind only.
In Buddhism, thinking is the first step and to be follow by action. So, in precaution, we stop the thinking ahead of the actions. But , this need not be the case as some of us only thinking about it and will forget it after our self gratification. This is only a moment of craving or desire which rise within our brain. We can just let it go and no harm is done. Why is it a sin ?
There are so many thoughts going through our mind and there will be a lot of sins if we consider thinking about it is a sin. Buddha's eight fold path is it forbidding this thoughtful sins ? Right action, Right thoughts , Right words , etc. Do we allow our mind to wonder and swing under the precept of Right thoughts ? I think it is only deterrent effect on this guiding precepts. When we don't want temptation, we must get away from the temptation. Just like we don't want to think dirty , we stop looking at girls or man which could trigger a dirty thought.
But, why do we look at pretty girls or handsome man and then stirred up our urge ? It is an instinct and a natural re-action from our inner self. Man are born with a hot - blooded desire. Otherwise, how do our population continued to grow. Who cares what we think ? It is all in our mind and nobody can see. We only feed guilty our self if we have dirty thoughts. All self contained .
I believe we see and think without action is still okay but without starting a desire to hurt or kill another person or act to hurt their integrity or human rights. In other words, we can do whatever we can in our mind to gratify our self if our mind is not properly trained or discipline. It is all our actions, our sin and our karma. Nevertheless, we can train our mind in a proper manner , then we should do it and kill all this thoughts at its bud.
We are what we are and think and act within.
Namaste.
Monday, November 28, 2016
Sunday, November 27, 2016
Blame
Last weekend, I listen to a youtube talk by Ajahn Brahm who talks about the subject of blame. The blame game is in all our everyday's life and we cannot stop people from blaming us.
He said that people will blame us for everything that does not happen nicely to them. Once, he was asked to give a chant at a patient's deathbed and the patient recovers subsequently but the family members scolded him as they have already prepared the funeral for their terminated ill relative. All the relatives have came from overseas and must come again if the patient really die. Ajahn said that he should ask the patient's family members what kind of chanting they want. Should he chant to sent the patient to die or to live. Yes, this is a blame game.
Another incident is a donkey who fell in a dry well. The farmers have been very angry with the donkey for damaging their crops and started to push the sand into the well to bury the donkey. Initially, the donkey gets edgy but after a while, the donkey stamp on the sand and gets higher and higher and finally, jump out from the well. Ajahn said that it is up to us to take the blame but each incident , we will go wiser and taller. We may not notice in the growth in us but we gets better and wiser . Human being is a strong creature and we can control our re-actions and can make wise decisions.
A blame can be positive or negative and it is all entire up to us. We can change the hurt and the pain into a positive strength . Let it be and do not look revenge but to live on well with not regrets.
Namaste.
He said that people will blame us for everything that does not happen nicely to them. Once, he was asked to give a chant at a patient's deathbed and the patient recovers subsequently but the family members scolded him as they have already prepared the funeral for their terminated ill relative. All the relatives have came from overseas and must come again if the patient really die. Ajahn said that he should ask the patient's family members what kind of chanting they want. Should he chant to sent the patient to die or to live. Yes, this is a blame game.
Another incident is a donkey who fell in a dry well. The farmers have been very angry with the donkey for damaging their crops and started to push the sand into the well to bury the donkey. Initially, the donkey gets edgy but after a while, the donkey stamp on the sand and gets higher and higher and finally, jump out from the well. Ajahn said that it is up to us to take the blame but each incident , we will go wiser and taller. We may not notice in the growth in us but we gets better and wiser . Human being is a strong creature and we can control our re-actions and can make wise decisions.
A blame can be positive or negative and it is all entire up to us. We can change the hurt and the pain into a positive strength . Let it be and do not look revenge but to live on well with not regrets.
Namaste.
Trust and doubts
In a Chinese saying " If you doubt a person , don't use him and if you decide to use the person, we have to give him complete trust ". It has been my policy and many a times, it was disappointing . It comes from both ways from the top or from the bottom.
From the top, if we are using our subordinates to do a job and give him a complete trust and in the end, we are either played out or they failed us. Greed and integrity are the main issues. After awhile, the subordinates go out of line and make decisions which do involved you and make a wrong decision as he or she fells that they are ready or become more knowledgeable.
From the bottom, the boss who used to trust us thinks that we are getting too big and over ride them. If it is true, the boss have all the rights to be angry but if it is misguided thinking or a fraction of his imagination , then it is very unfair to the subordinate who have been rooting all the time for the boss. This misguided action or response could be very hurting and can damaged the rapport between the boss and the subordinate. Either the boss is getting too big and gets suspicion or there is a gap already existing between the boss and subordinate. They have broken the link of communication and have eroded the trust between them. If this gap remains unhealed , it will get bigger and bigger and it could end in the relationship.
A trust takes years to grow and it can be broken in one day.
Namaste.
From the top, if we are using our subordinates to do a job and give him a complete trust and in the end, we are either played out or they failed us. Greed and integrity are the main issues. After awhile, the subordinates go out of line and make decisions which do involved you and make a wrong decision as he or she fells that they are ready or become more knowledgeable.
From the bottom, the boss who used to trust us thinks that we are getting too big and over ride them. If it is true, the boss have all the rights to be angry but if it is misguided thinking or a fraction of his imagination , then it is very unfair to the subordinate who have been rooting all the time for the boss. This misguided action or response could be very hurting and can damaged the rapport between the boss and the subordinate. Either the boss is getting too big and gets suspicion or there is a gap already existing between the boss and subordinate. They have broken the link of communication and have eroded the trust between them. If this gap remains unhealed , it will get bigger and bigger and it could end in the relationship.
A trust takes years to grow and it can be broken in one day.
Namaste.
Sunday, November 20, 2016
Sunday's today
Sunday's today
It was raining heavily last night and there was thunders and lightning as if the Gods were angry . The clashes of the thunder and lightning caused explosions as the Gods unleashed their power at each other causing the havoc and noise . I was awaken and could not sleep. Why the Gods are arguing and fight it out ??? Strange .
I have wake up at 8am and fetch my sisters to visit some properties and we had a cuppa while on the way. After visiting the properties , we had tim sum for breakfast . Again, we were on our way to see more properties . My sister is thinking of buying a property for her daughters .
After buying lunch for my wife , I took a power nap and I spend the whole afternoon lazying around in my living room. It is the same every Sunday , I would just sleep in front of the TV and changing for the right channel. It is a boring stuff but it is a necessity for me.
In the night ,it was birthday dinner celebration for my 2nd sister . All my family members gathered for a dinner and drinks. We had a good time and it was the end for another day.
Time have flew and we start another week tomorrow .
Namaste .
Famous Jakarta traffic jam
The famous Jakarta traffic jam
Sitting in the car and queuing in the famous jam in Jakarta is really no fun and joke . The traffic jam can last one to two hours during the morning and evening time as people rush to and from work. It is really dragging our feet In the jam moving inch by inch .
I was told one of the reason is that the traffic volume is too much and the Jakarta Government have implemented a system that allows odd and even number plate cars to enter the city on an alternate . You must remember which day to us which car . Hence , one person will have two cars to ensure that he is allow to travel by car each day. There are intermediate jams along the highways as the cars float the highway during morning rush and evening home coming trips .
It needs a lot patience on the road and it sometimes burn into our cores as boring sets in . One thing for sure , we must use the toilets ahead of each trips on the highways as the jams are unpredictable and sudden. We will be in a mess if we are caught in a jam and having to use the toilets . It will definitely a painful experience .
It is a plan to avoid trouble and not plan for failures .
Namaste
Friday, November 11, 2016
The moment
The moment
Another Saturday and after my morning yoga session , I am resting before lunch at May's Siting and waiting for my wife .
I am aware of the day's movement and feeling a bit restless and uneasy . I cannot focus on the TV and my mind is everywhere switching from thoughts to thoughts . My emotions shifting from a resting pace to an agitating mood. I have been training my mind at my own pace yet I cannot control the changing pace.
I am aware that time is moving fast and now is noon and in a while is evening and then night .
What is my purpose today ? Just resting , no urgent matters .
It will be a slow pace against a fast passing time .
Now is November , last month was October and next month is December . Then it will be 2017.
Wow.. Time really flies . Yeah , the thought is how many 10 years to we have . Live in a routine or a circle is really living ? No worries , eat , sleep and work is these all that matters .
Only have to aware billy not doing anything about it is living .
No. Awareness is not enough but to live and do something or anything which makes a difference matters . Help a person , teach a person or break a routine and to find freshness in our living is important .
Buddha says : learn to wait . Everything has its own time .
We cannot wait . We have to reach out .
Namaste
Tuesday, November 8, 2016
Nothing to do
In life, there are many arm chair critics and smart alex . There is nothing to do but want to create something to do. Just open their gap and shoot blanks and create a confusion and make them look important. These people do not have political backbones. Just shooting blanks and make noise.
On the other side, the soft ear fellows . There will listen to everything that barks and will doubts in their mind. There will create a lot of imaginations and want everything to be check . Even those clearly and logical things also they want to clarify.
IF we pull these two group of people together, the whole world will be topsy turvy and make the whole whole confused. These two group of people will talk and continue to talk which one side creates a situation and they points out many problems. Like the song which goes like this " someone want ot abuse and someone want to be abused" . Just it rattles on and on and on in no endings.
There is a saying " one type of rice , feed 100 types of people ". So it is an ever ending song.
So much noise, so much rattling and so much people without back bones and they need each other to lean on before they can stand.
Funny world.
Namaste.
On the other side, the soft ear fellows . There will listen to everything that barks and will doubts in their mind. There will create a lot of imaginations and want everything to be check . Even those clearly and logical things also they want to clarify.
IF we pull these two group of people together, the whole world will be topsy turvy and make the whole whole confused. These two group of people will talk and continue to talk which one side creates a situation and they points out many problems. Like the song which goes like this " someone want ot abuse and someone want to be abused" . Just it rattles on and on and on in no endings.
There is a saying " one type of rice , feed 100 types of people ". So it is an ever ending song.
So much noise, so much rattling and so much people without back bones and they need each other to lean on before they can stand.
Funny world.
Namaste.
Monday, November 7, 2016
It never happen before
Last night , I was caught in a massive jam and it has never happen before . So jammed pack until I cannot move when return home last night . I kept grumbling and scolding in the air and only in the morning , I understood . The whole town was flooded and the highway was the main road leading to the town centre.
Suddenly, I remember of a story of a man who is always very angry with things and one day, his father asked him to put a nail on the fence each time he gets angry. In a week, he saw that he has nailded 100 nails on the fence and run to his father and tell him. His father told him to remove each nail from the fence if he is not angry. In the next one week, he could removed all the nails from the fence and he ran to tell his father . His father took him to the fence and show him all the holes on the way. The man have became more patience and not so hot temper in the process but the father told him that what is said will leave a mark in people's heart. Each scolding or strong remarks will leave a nail hole on the wall as if in the heart of the people , he has scolded .
We can say all the things we want but have to be aware that each remarks have a consequence and it is very hard to remove it. So , when it is jammed and you feel very angry for being unable to move, you better remember this story and keep your temper down. I know it is impossible but it has to be done.
Namaste.
Suddenly, I remember of a story of a man who is always very angry with things and one day, his father asked him to put a nail on the fence each time he gets angry. In a week, he saw that he has nailded 100 nails on the fence and run to his father and tell him. His father told him to remove each nail from the fence if he is not angry. In the next one week, he could removed all the nails from the fence and he ran to tell his father . His father took him to the fence and show him all the holes on the way. The man have became more patience and not so hot temper in the process but the father told him that what is said will leave a mark in people's heart. Each scolding or strong remarks will leave a nail hole on the wall as if in the heart of the people , he has scolded .
We can say all the things we want but have to be aware that each remarks have a consequence and it is very hard to remove it. So , when it is jammed and you feel very angry for being unable to move, you better remember this story and keep your temper down. I know it is impossible but it has to be done.
Namaste.
Sunday, November 6, 2016
This raining season
The raining season now is much heavier than the past seasons , the weather is changing and it is becoming more severe. There are landslides , flood and tress falling by the roadside. Why is it happening ?
There is a meaningful saying , You reap what you sow ... Yeah, do good, be good and good will come to you. I have been telling my daughter that this is the law of Karma. It really happens .
If the people in this world do more sins , the Universe will re-act . Like the carbon dioxide which is buying a hole in the sky. The excessive carbon will change heaven and it will open up the weather to a severe change. The Sky is reacting to the " no good " actions from the earth which would unleashed their adverse impact on the world. We better to believe before we are completely wipe off from this world.
The rain is not even heavier, the roads are giving way and the jam gets worst and worst . Going to work was only a 30 minutes thing but now , it took me an average of an hour. The world is getting smaller, the buildings are getting higher, the road are getting narrower , the population is getting larger , the cost of living is getting higher and the distance between two places is getting flatter and nearer. What is happening ? The world is changing fast and we have to change faster in order not to be crushed.
Namaste.
There is a meaningful saying , You reap what you sow ... Yeah, do good, be good and good will come to you. I have been telling my daughter that this is the law of Karma. It really happens .
If the people in this world do more sins , the Universe will re-act . Like the carbon dioxide which is buying a hole in the sky. The excessive carbon will change heaven and it will open up the weather to a severe change. The Sky is reacting to the " no good " actions from the earth which would unleashed their adverse impact on the world. We better to believe before we are completely wipe off from this world.
The rain is not even heavier, the roads are giving way and the jam gets worst and worst . Going to work was only a 30 minutes thing but now , it took me an average of an hour. The world is getting smaller, the buildings are getting higher, the road are getting narrower , the population is getting larger , the cost of living is getting higher and the distance between two places is getting flatter and nearer. What is happening ? The world is changing fast and we have to change faster in order not to be crushed.
Namaste.
Madness of the day
Nowadays, madness is everywhere. The Reds come out to demonstrate with 700 people and they claim 10,000 and they show a silat with masked actors and canning themselves to show their power. Shame and shy lah but yet they collect the rubbish they left behind and put it in front of a gate to show their displeasure and finally caught by the police. What an idiot ? Don't they know that they cannot litter in the public ? Morons . pea brain or fish brain... no wonder they sell fishes.
Another Minister asked Police to block all the roads to prevent bersih5 .. another pea brain. he also say the donation of 2.6 is different from the donation from OSF ... another fish brain remark despite It was shown that the funds came from 1MDB.. why are this people blind > they only see what they want to see... Political actors.
There is other Minister who blamed DAP from splitting the Malays but it turn out that PAS accused them from splitting the party... Pea brain again.
Even the CM of Sawarak scolded the Government for converting their teacher's training college into a college and also scold the stupid people who rejected the teaching of English. I admired the CM from speaking up. A CM scolding the PM , Haiyooooo fish brain.
So much madness , like the high leading from Georgetown to Bayan Lepas, it is a four lane highway and it is lead into a two lane road .. So that is why is jammed very day... monkey brain of the past state governments.
To all the madness in the world.
Namaste.
Another Minister asked Police to block all the roads to prevent bersih5 .. another pea brain. he also say the donation of 2.6 is different from the donation from OSF ... another fish brain remark despite It was shown that the funds came from 1MDB.. why are this people blind > they only see what they want to see... Political actors.
There is other Minister who blamed DAP from splitting the Malays but it turn out that PAS accused them from splitting the party... Pea brain again.
Even the CM of Sawarak scolded the Government for converting their teacher's training college into a college and also scold the stupid people who rejected the teaching of English. I admired the CM from speaking up. A CM scolding the PM , Haiyooooo fish brain.
So much madness , like the high leading from Georgetown to Bayan Lepas, it is a four lane highway and it is lead into a two lane road .. So that is why is jammed very day... monkey brain of the past state governments.
To all the madness in the world.
Namaste.
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