Thursday, June 30, 2016

The evil gets stronger

Yes, there are a lot of evils in this world , it can be in different forms including as a human being.  This evil gathers all evils around him and as a group the power of the evil gets stronger.. It is just the case of bad people, they gather together to torture the good people.  The more fear they are,  the more powerful are they.


In the case of robbers , a few people robbers gather together to rob a joint and if only one robber , he cannot do anything except to be overcome by the people he robbed.  So they go in a gang.  It is like the example of a chopstick . If one stick, it is easy to break but you put in a bundle , then it can be unbreakable. The spirit of evil is like this example, the more they gather together , the more powerful is the evil.


What can the good do ? If the good choose to remain silent and watch the evil growth then the later will be more and more powerful but if the good shoes to fight back , then the growth of the evil is stunned and kept in  check. If the lights get dim, the darks grow and make the place darker.


So, the good man also need to gather the good man and project a strong team like the chopstick example. The light must shine back while the darkness retreat and the place gets brighten up,.


In this example , the light is stronger than the dark and we have to be aware and alert of this factor.  Where there is light, the darkness disappear . So , the light is having a upper hand and it must move the place of darkness to defeat evil.  It is only a pro-active action and the light must move and go to the place of darkness to remove darkness.


So , the light people . Don't be scare. , just stand up and move , the darkness will be gone without a fight. it is often the light choose to do nothing where the darkness gain an upper hand.


Move , stand up and hands up to defeat darkness .  There is no resistance if the light is powerful enough to light up the place.


Namaste. .



Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Life journey - my staff is getting married .

My staff came in and she started to chat with me.  Suddenly, we moved on to the subject of our journey through life .


Based on my experience , I told us the first 5 years of our life, we will compromised a lot to keep a happy and strong relationship.   The difference in the character and our passion will be very small but as years goes on, the passion and the compromise will start to widen as our passion and ego have come out of suppression.. The more of "me" will be more glaring as the fulfillment of our passions took priority.


The next 5 to 10 years, there will more disagreements , preference and conflict .  The gap between passion and compromise will gradually widen more and more through the years.  So, for some people, it reach a breaking point or tapering point and divorce and if they have children , this factor could save the day depending on how deep rooted the family concept is in the relationship.  Otherwise, it will just broken off .


I told my staff that love will turn into a care and a care for each other despite the love have diminished.  The care factor increase over the years if the relationship or the passion is the same or near the same for both as they can still see eye to eye.


Otherwise, both parties will wonder off in separate ways to do their own things and the home is not a home but a botel where each shared a bed for a brief relationship.  Nevertheless , the outcome will depend on other factors like our thinking and wisdom.


Some people can compromised their passion until the end and still remain close for sake of their family, honor and tradition.   What is the purpose of life ? it is to live the life of another and subdued our passion.


What is our passion ? It is our chosen path in life. It can be a different life depending on the choice at different timing of our life  ie 5, 10 , 20 years.  Our path in life changes at the each point and it could continued to be in a circle until our life expires if we avoid the various points to exercise our votes.
When we say about pre-destined , it means our decision at each point will give us a different path or a similar path if we avoid the decisions.


Namaste.

Monday, June 27, 2016

Staleness

When you hit a platform,  it is flat all the way. People working around you is on the move and you have to deal with the incoming new fella.  Start all over again to guide, training and nurture.  How many times, can we repeat this act.  Somehow , it become very boring and meaningless.


Can I move on ? To what ? I am asking myself.. What to do with your ample time if you stop what you are doing . Waiting to die ? To start something new. Yeah , search for my passions  and go into a layback stage. If I carry on , how long , I can bear with it. Each year, my body consume more energy and power to do the same job.  I have to be aware and alert about this point.


Now is the time to nurture the young ones to take over.  Why my big ego ?  I should be wise about this matter. A good leader is without big titles and must have the humility.  Don't try to take over other people's merit and let everyone shine through by themselves.   No need to struggle to shine and it would be good to let the next generation to take over while we wither and fade away like a good soldier.


In the heart, it is not the ego, the title or the money, but the fear of what to do next.  Should just flow the flow of nature and let things the way it come as pre-destined. Why fight the path or the way of the path, just flow with it and let nature take over.  When it come, it will come with a reason. Just accept it and let go.


Yes, I have been convincing myself that I take what it comes and I am ready for it.  I can just move aside and let whatever takes over naturally.  This is the kind of staleness , I talking about.  I have hit a plateau and everything looks repetitious and stale.


Namaste.

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

LIfe is hard

I have received a message from an old friend and she told me that life is hard.. Yes, basically, life is very difficult . The poor and the rich have their own sets of problems and money is not every thing but cannot live without.  The poor struggles to live as money is their bread and butter and the rich wants to get more money because of their greed and status. Everyone have their sets of problem and so life becomes unbearable and tough.

However, everyone have a choice .  A choice to live simply and in contentment.  How we look at life is a very important factor  A home , three meals a day is a contentment for the poor but for the rich , they must have the billions before they can feel secured and happy.  Their needs and view of contentment is very different.

I was told that the happiest nation in the world is Bangladesh. In the past, they have one meal a day and they could survive and remained happy . Now, they have progress and they have three meals a day  and they also remained happy.  In the country , there is so many extremist and most of the people live shabbily in sheds and attap huts but at night , they walk for miles to see their friends and go for shopping and eat their basic food.  The buses are packed and overflow and their trishaws are plentiful.  But, they are contented with the freedom that they have and basically filling the streets during their off hours and off days,  It is a perception and personal judgement of what is enough for us.

We tend to follow others , to compete with others for more  or better than others to be contented and we lost track of what we need to be contented . It is the ego of being better or have the same wealth as others or status as others.  We follow the crowd instead of our own needs  The ego iin us and transform us into what we are not.

Yes, contentment is  personal judgement and if we are influence by what others have, by what others tell us, by measuring ourselves by the standard of others , we have deviated .  We have failed in our life journey because we are following others and not our self.  Why ?  Are we following blindly and live in another person's shadow or becoming what other people expect us to be .  It is  silly isn't it ? Who are they to lead us , who are they telling how we should live  or setting the standard of our achievements. Rubbish. We have to be our self and doing what we like and living what is best for us. Nobody have the right to judge us or tell us what we should do.

This thinking is very important as the wrong thinking , the wrong concentration and the wrong belief will change us and make us into another person which we do not want to be , We want our own life  Yes, keep telling our self that we want to be what we are .

Namaste.

The power in you

Everybody have the inner strength to strike but it is the fear that kept this power in us. If we removed the fear , we can unleashed an immerse power to be what we are , what we want and who we are.  IT is a transformation.  I could see the example of my sales manager and has resigned from my company.

He has been working with me for past 5 years and having 3 years under my supervision. In the past years, he has been struggling to meet his budget . Sometimes his sales meet the target but most of the time , he failed.  He has been struggling for the past few years and each time, he failed to meet his budget, his mood will be bad and he will lost his bearing and be stressed. He is proud and egoistic man and he could not bear to face his coming budget and personal KPI.  He resigned as the stress have caused great damage to his health.  I have seen him sick and he has blacked out a few times.  Finally, he resigned as I could persuade him to stay anymore as he holds me responsible for his health and his family

The moment he resigned , he transformed himself and he becomes chatty and regain his personal self and he told me that he has removed a stone in his brain which have been pressing against his brain.  He felt that he can fly without wings or he think he can fly.  The stone he is referring to his fear . The fear of not been able to answer for his failure to meet the budget or KPI.  This stone of fear was getting heavier each day and it becomes unbearable through the years

In his personal words, he felt relieved  and light.  Just like the examples , I have quoted in my previous article.  He has pick up a stick five years ago, it was very light then but through the years, the stick gets heavier and heavier as I persuade him to stay on.  Finally, the hands which is carrying the stick become so painful and unbearable and he has to put it down before his hand is torn off from his body.  This is the silence of the disease called " fear" .

Throw out the fear as soon as you feels it and be bold to face it and don't change yourself for someone or anyone,  Be what you are , righteous  and courageous. The job is not very thing if you are capable.  No  attachments but just be yourself , Fear will change you into another person that is not you and make you stressful and timid.  Slow down and focus and handle your fear with a direct confrontation. Ask the fear to go to hell and you will see the sky which you are missing . Other place is waiting for you and it is a better heaven.

Namaste.

Tuesday, June 21, 2016

My 28 years' old friend.

During last year, I purposely sent a CNY greetings to my friend whom I have lost touch with for 28 years. She was shocked and keep asking who I am but I remained silent.  Now she knows who I am and she told me that she was upset as I have refused to identify myself.  This prank really backfired as she remained angry with me.


For the past 28 years, it was like blank . How time flies and where are the lost years ?  It is so weird as she keeps telling me.  Strange to receive a greeting message after 28 years.  How did I ever thought that this could trigger her anger after losing touch for so long.


It is a friendly thought , just find out how is things with her. For me, as  I say , it is a total blank but yet things happen through the years.  The blood, sweat and tears and aging process.


Things are never the same for each year and in the later years, it is even more profound as we aged and go through life process.  So much experience and wisdom through the years as we mature and wither.


As I have said before, at the end of the day is only love and memories. Nothing matters.  The money and frame can disappeared immediately on our demise but the love and memories lasted a longer time but eventually, it also disappear through the passing of the generations. What good things my grandfather have done , it is not within my memory now and his image fade with time and memory.




There are many hate, hurts and arguments and dislikes when relationships are concern. Sometimes, such hurts can turn us away from each other forever but it need happen this way, as we can overcome the hate and hurts..  As I mentioned, it is all within us.  We can forgive and forget or we can hold on to the hurts and suffer in silence. Let it go  rather than holding a stick in the hand and it gets heavier as the days passed. However, this takes much wisdom to do it.


Life going forward is more important while the past is death and gone. Keep the memories and love while letting the past go forever. It is within you.


Namaste.

Monday, June 20, 2016

My father's day dinner

My wife wanted me to invite her brothers and aunties and I took the chance to invite my brother and sisters. We had a good meal and it was fun to see how each of us have aged. We laugh and laugh after my brother in law and me have a few drink of rum.  It was sweet it taste so smooth but there was a bit of high feelings.


It starts well and ended well and the food was secondary.  The fun of together and seeing each other as time flies.  Yes, time really flies as the last time I saw my wife auntie was a few months ago during the wake of my eldest sister in law.  She has passed away last Dec 15 and it has been six months already.  Wow, time leaps and bounced endlessly.


Each time we meet , it is always on an occasion as everyone of us is busy with our life and when we meet we talk about the past and the old times. End of the day , it is only memories and love.  It is so funny that absence makes the heart fonder and concern and love expressed during the gathering.


 It is very fortunate that my daughter , May have decided to open a cafĂ© and we have chance and a place to gather together.  Otherwise, it is not possible to have more occasions to meet and find out the well beings of people close to us.


Looking at the family members , it is not the age that matters but it is the general health.  My wife's auntie is already 80 years old but my eldest sister is only 74 but their health and appearance differ so much.   My eldest sister hardly can walk and she looks so old but my wife's auntie is still so energetic despite after having operations on her knees.  It is the way of life and our body's absorption of the daily stress and  torture which matters a lot in our appearance.


Yeah, another occasion have passed and we look forward to another chance to meet.  It is only about time and money and does it matter ?  We should meet as often as possible before our time is up.


Namaste.

Friday, June 17, 2016

Fathers' Day 2016

We have a mothers' day , a fathers' day and a parent's day and a valentine day ? So many different type of days to celebrate differently...  Is it a commercialization for just to make money or a real purpose to appreciate the different days..  I think it comes from the heart...... different people having different views and purposes.


I think if the right effort to appreciate the different days, it is  a good thing . Not a commercialization effort to do business and to make money by the businessman.  However, there is no compulsion , if you want to do it, just do it and should not be make to do it. It is liberal and democratic and no effort to force us to do the things we don't want.  But , if we have opt to do it voluntarily then we should not blame anyone.. It is our choice.


If we do not have such appreciation or different type of celebration then our life would be a blank sheet of paper and it will be meaningless if we do not have the fun we want in our life.  Time waits for no one and if we wait , then when we wake up , it is too late.


Eat while we eat , travel while we can walk, sleep if we can  sleep , make love if we have the urge and energy , this is all about life. Don't restrain , don't deprive of your rights and passion . Live passionately and spread the universal love.


Life can be very small or can be very big.   It is your choice and your needs.


Namaste.

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Right concentration

It is one of the eight fold path . Right concentration.  What does it mean ?  There are so many thoughts going through our heads and which is the right thought to concentrate on ? How do we choose how to concentrate ?  This was a question posed to me by one of staff.


I told her that there is about 50,000 thoughts going through our head and some is repeatedly the same thought  and with these number of thoughts going through our head , we will short circuited if our head is like a switch.  It saps our energy and give us confusion.  If we can cut down the number of thoughts going to our head , we will become energetic  and lively as we can give the excess energy to live life. How can we do it ? Yes, we can do it by having the right concentration. Don't let our mind dictate to us on what we thing or do.


The right concentration can be attained by proper practice and discipline. We hold to one thought as long as possible.  The thoughts are like monkeys jumping here and there , up and down , running far and wide.  You just have to hold to one thought . A noble thought.


This is the art of meditation.  When we start to meditate , it is very restless and torturing as our thoughts keep pushing us around and keep switching from screen to screen.  Be kind to yourself as you should be aware that the monkeys have been wild for many years now and if you want to tame it , it has to be a slow process.  The monkeys represent your sense of smell, hearing , seeing , feeling and tasting ,etc. Concentrate on one noble thought and reject your senses from disturbing you. One way is to concentrate on your breath which is your breathing feeling or concentrate on a single light , that is your sense of sight or concentrate on a piece of music , that is your sense of hearing. Either one of these senses is acceptable and hold on it as long as possible.


When I say hold on it, it does not mean stop breathing. Hold your focus on your breath  ie in and out breath and enjoy the beauty of each breath without thinking , just appreciating it while is sit in the most comfortable position . Be kind to yourself and don't expect anything.  Let the form sets in by itself , the peace and tranquility comes in by itself.  Enjoy it at the present moment. The sweetness of each breath. Some people resort to chanting  or a single light spot focus or enjoy each note of the music. Find the right approach  and practice the art of concentration. Expect nothing, let the form come by itself.


Enjoy the precepts of right concentration .


Namaste.

Monday, June 13, 2016

Every thing is uncertain.

I realized that the principle of impermanence . Everything is evolving and changing and nothing is static as said by Lao Tzu.   Time wait for no one and everything will decay according to time and will diminished over time.


There is no such thing as forever and there is a limit to life. If we are careful and aware , we can feel that our body is changing all the time. The hair will fall off, the teeth will be gone , the cells are dying and the skin is drying up and we lose our marbles of confidence over time.  Time is the master of all.


It is strange that we give up time so easily. We wild away or sleep or remained idle through the precious time and when it gets less and less , then we become more and more desperate.  We struggle to live the remaining years and try to live as well as ever but the body, the mind and the heart is failing us.


For example , traveling .  When we are young , we postpone our needs to see the world and when we have the time and money, our legs and our heart cannot support us through the journey. It is stupid planning right ? We are aware of it but we just let the days drift off.  What stupidity we have ?


It is always a wonder that the cycle of life which is birth, age, sickness and death is so simple to understand and yet we pay so little attention to this cycle. It is like after birth, we will never age, get sick and will never die.  We live as if we cannot die.  It is a mistake but we never talk about this matter and assume that we will live forever and forever . yet, when we realize it , it is just too late.


Someone asked me a question , when I retire ?  Yet, I get desperate of this simple question . Yes, I have thought about retirement but I have not really set a date .  Yes, the date will not be too long in the future and it will happen one day.  Yet, in my mind, I keep evading the answer to my self. It is not the money but it is rather the thought of being useless frighten me more.  I will decay fast in my body and my mind.  The wise words of Lee Kuan Yew, still rang loud in my ears.  He said " retirement is just like waiting for your death"..  Yes, it is true as we see most the way pensioners behave. They lack the dignity to keep their self in proper conditions like wearing shabbily  and looks sluggish through lack of exercise.  It is something for us all to ponder and wonder.


Life will end one day as the task could be shift to the next generation or successor. We better faced the reality and live on the best we can.


Namaste.

Saturday, June 11, 2016

The third eye

Long time ago, I read a book by lomsang Rampa called " The third eye" among his several mysterious books about getting out of the body experience ,etc. I could vividly remembered that our third eye lies in between our two existing eyes and located right in our forehead. Actually, there is no physical eye and in the Chinese forklore , one of the demi god have developed and open up his third eye to see the evils on earth.

In this book of Lomsang Rampa , those people who are deep in meditation practice , they could open their chakras including opening their third eye. There is no physical eye but if we concentrate deeply and focus our energy to the location of the third eye, we could feel  sensation as if the location has a concentration of energy and we can force it through if we concentrate long enough.

In our real life, we tend to see thing or have our opinion and expect other people to follow us and understand us. We get very frustrated if people don't see our way or understand us. It is actually that all of us is in the dark and we cannot see each other unless there is a light to lead us to see what we want or want to tell or our understanding. We expect other people to understand us and live up to our standards. Our ego is very big and we are upset when it does not happen.

It is just like the example of the third eye. If we want to be a good leader , we must guide our followers or our associates to open up their third eye instead of using their existing to two eyes and try to see things our way.  At the shift of a slight angle, the view is totally different and we have to stand at the same angle to see the same view. If we leave to our two existing eyes, we will be looking at different things at different angles and we will never be at the same wave length.  Both of us have to tell each other of what we see and both have to shift our angle to see the same thing. The responsibility is on both of us. This adjustment needs a  lot of communication and inter-action to synchronize our focus and our wave length . It like dancing a waltz , the steps must be synchronized after lots of practice and adjustments . Otherwise, we will step on the feet of our partners.

The opening of the third eye will let us see more clearly and is a focus of the two existing diverging eyes to ensure we see things in the same angle and understand  each other well.

The third eye is also the wisdom eye which opens you up to a new world.

Namaste

Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Fear ?

Why fear ? Fear manifest itself and strengthen fear . Fear creates a boundary , it creates a limit . It is out of the comfort zone which we thrives so well.  There is uncertainties and turbulence outside the limit  Strange. It creates butterfly in our stomach and make us uneasy and restless. 


To think deep into it, it all in the mind. Our mind creates all the ghost and devils and make our ego very big.  Robbin Sherma says to lead without a title is a true leader.   Yes, I think it is right.  If we can lead without a title and people follow and obey you, it is the true leadership style. It is the convincing power that leads.


Our mind planted a lot of shadows and misconceptions and building up suspicions in our mind as we start to see a lot of ghost.  Anyway, Ghost is not true , it is the creation of the mind.  If we start to live in the world of suspicion , we will be misled and waste a lot of our precious time fighting the ghost in us than rather to live.


If we control our mind and live without fear than all the suspicion and ghost will disappear and our horizon will be clear and we can live more fruitfully and wisely. We are fearful because of our embarrassment or causing hurt to our ego  and we could land in a strange environment.  There is nothing to embarrass about and it is only a matter of perception by others which is not important to us.


Sitting , imagining and creating stories will not help but to face everything heads on. Come what may and tell your self that we are not fearful of the consequences.  We have to have self esteem and respect and to be facing everything heads on.


We should be guided by our own standard , our own need and our own life.  Money and status is not everything and it is impermanence. Fleeting illusions and we should real live and believe in  our self as we don't depend on any external things but our own self.




Namaste.

Sunday, June 5, 2016

Right words and right action?

I have written an article on these two themes , following Buddha's eight fold path.

In Buddha teaching, we have to use the right words in the view of the situation and we do not talk bad about people or use vulgar words or aggressive expressions to hurt people . Often, we used these words to defy or defend ourselves from being hurt Or we counter attack other people , we think have hurt us. These revengeful actions make us feel safe and comfortable or we could also enjoy it as we have attacked the other people for the wrongful things done to us. But, is this the best way to do it. We scolded four letter words as we think the four letter word have expressed our anger and rebuked the opposing party..  But , is it ? does the four letter words hurt the other people or have hurt us instead. Our mind have played a funny part here as the four letter word not only have not been communicated properly and other people could see the unreasonableness in our words or we have lowered our image in the public's eye.   If we use the word " fuck you" to express your anger but do you really want to fuck your agitator.  The person could be the same sex as you or a 70 years old women. Actually, what do you want to do ? It is only to enjoy your own self  for a particular moment . The satisfaction is only in your mind .

What about the right action ? The right action is not to harm others if you cannot help them.  Dalai Lama have a good wisdom to share with us.  Things is for us to use while people is for us to love them. But , the real trouble is the people love the things that they have but used the people to get what they want.  The formula is wrong. Under this precept, we need love others and do the right thing all the time. Don't let our emotions control us and make us their slaves.

Be a  master of our own mind , our own actions and  words.  Never give excuse to deviate form this precepts.

Namaste.