Thursday, October 31, 2013

A sense of madness

A little bit of madness

To be creative , we need a little bit of madness. The same is said for courage, imagination, adventurous , stubbornness, firmness and many others.

Sometimes , greediness and madness is mixed in one and this combination is very dangerous. We can stretch our limits to a very thin level and the chance of risk is very increased. It is the greed that risen the madness and it goes to the border and sometime it snaps and draw on a disaster.

Gambling  is one example of Greed riding on a sense of madness. It caused many people to become bankrupt if their gamble fail.

What is madness? A courage or a fearless attitude which blinds the logic to do something. Thinking out of a box needs a kind of madness to do it. To do something out of the norm is madness.

To do the impossible also needs a sense of madness. Often, we avoid the impossible because there is a high risk and it needs mad people to the impossible.

Namaste.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Today's yoga lesson

My today's yoga session

My teacher was wearing a red top and a zebra tight bottom. She was ready for the class. I have been her student for the sixth year now and she is going back to the basics with a difference. A different type of breathing method.

For the past years , she has been teaching us the forms but know she teach us to use our breath to lead the form. In addition, she also asked us to focus on our breath and use the "in and out" breathing patten to break down the motion into tiny parts , driven by the breath in and breath out movements.

In Tai Chi , it has the same theory. When our hands move towards our body. It is breath and when we pushed out , we breath out.'the slowness in the Tai Chi form is also driven by the slowness of the breath. For the legs , if we lift them up , you breath in and when you kick out,you breath out.

My teacher agreed with me that Tai Chi and yoga shared many similarities. Once, my Tai Chi Master told me that the Tai Chi movement is like walking in the water ie each step is in slow motion and in total relax position.

The most important principle is to move slowly like in a dharma walk routine and if we concentrate on our breath , slow it down and let it lead the form, our thoughts would be totally in control.

Namaste.

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Road monsters.

Road Monsters

Last Sunday, I was waiting in my car for my wife to do some shopping at the Farlim wet market. Suddenly , a car stopped at the side of my car and shouted something at me. I could not hear him as my windshield was up. He was yelling like a mad man and I wind down my car's window and asked him what is the matter. He told me not to park my car by the roadside as I was blocking the traffic.  I was going to ask  him which traffic police station s he attached to but before I can asked him , the car behind was honking him. His car was actually blocking the traffic. He moved up the road but still turning his head to see my actions, I still sit in my car at the same spot. Finally, he moved on . Really upset.

I think the best way to calm ourself is treat this people or road bullies as mad man. If you start to be upset with his irrational behavior, then we will be torturing ourself . It is meaningless to engage ourselves in a rage. How can we be upset with a mad person.

In our daily life, we can meet many if such people who are bullies and if they make you angry , then they will be happy.

Many times , I have  encountered  motorist or cars overtaking n my left or motor cyclist riding in the middle of the road , risking their lives . There are cases of three or four passenger on a motorbike , just because cannot afford a car or lazy to ride three or four times home. The trend have been rampant as some people want big family and yet could not earned enough to cater for all. So, they risk their life to make them happy.

This evening I encountered a drunken motorist riding in the middle of the road swaying here and there courting death. I wonder what will happen to his family if he is  injured or killed. How irresponsible are they in doing such risky act.

Well, we cannot control everybody"s behavior and we only have to be cautious. We should not be fearful despite the danger is real.

Namaste.

To err is human, to forgive is divine

This phase is very popularly used to seek forgiveness but forgiveness is very hard to come by. Why? It is lot to do with self-ego. Once we lost our face or we are hurt, our emotions takes over and we want to take revenge to get even at all cost. We lost our logic and forgiveness and we only focus on the hurt and lost of face. If we slow down and come to our senses, then we realized that what we have gone through is wasteful and meaningless. Is self-ego so important? Some people treat self above all and they become egotistic and revengeful. Some people treat ego as a false image and they can see through their self and make the ego vanished. The latter shows self respect and constraint and keep the real "him or her". Yes, I felt hurt many times and how long it stays with me, it depends on me and how I handle hurt. All this option is within us and if we focus and think about it, it stays with us and if we choose to kick it out, it will vanished in thin air. The power of how is hurts lies with us. It is like holding a stick in our hand and the longer we hold it, the more painful to our arms. The principle is the same. The phase " To err is human , to forgive is divine" , means that every people makes error including the person who is hurt. This is very normal in life but for the person who is hurt to forgive, it is like GOD. They have the big heart to forgive and forget to move on. In this phase , it also illustrate the difficulty of forgiving. In another words, the person who is hurt have to behave like GOD, so how many people can behave like GOD to forgive. Hence, there is a lot of unhappiness and suffering on earth. For those who can forgive easily, they will enjoy a more blissful and happy life. I hope this message find all those hurtful people who can see through the truth of this phrase and move on. Namaste.

Monday, October 28, 2013

Our base line.

Our base line

Everyone of us have our own individual base or bottom line and this is the limit of our tolerance of humiliation or joke.  Some people have a very deep base line but other people have a very shallow line . When such level is breach that is when a joke turn into a  quarrel  or a fun time turn into disaster.

Our base line fluctuate according to our mood and our temper. The range changes every now and then In each day. A joke can be fun on one day and the same joke can be a disaster In another day or in front of different people or place. Like I have said before to predict an outcome involving human beings is a impossible thing. The outcome is uncontrollable .

In order to get an ideal conclusion, the right elements of place , time and people must converge. Hence, for a difficult agreement to conclude, we must wait for the right time , right place and the right people to be there to make it a successful agreement.

One of the elements is people and as I have mention before  it is extremely difficult because of the fluctuating mood of Human beings. Their self ego and the fluid human nature makes a problem difficult.

The unpredictable character of human beings makes life interesting and colorful。Any predictable outcome would be boring in the long run.

Namas

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Is jicama the next superfood?

Dear folks,  healthy body , healthy mind .   Pls explore more to improve our diet and food intake to keep the balance.  Namaste.

Is jicama the next superfood?

Life is short

Life is short This is a very common advise and it has been repeating in our years or we have read it through and through. Each time , we hear or read about it, the message will prick our senses and we stop for awhile to think and we will move on with our priorities in life. This message never really sink into our heads until we face its end. Why are we so silly? Or do we really have no time to think about it or refuse to think about it. The latter reason should be the correct reason,  we refuse to think about it because it can be very disruptive and unpleasant.  There is a lot fear to change to do the things we like. We will be  hurting lots of people when we change our normal life to pursue what we want. Si, we don't have the guts to change. Future fear or possible fear are holding us back and this is the barrier in our life. Danger is real but fear is not. We face to really make a point to face life and pursue our dreams before it is too late. Make an attempt to experience what we want to do and to re-enforce our guts to move near to it and finally experience it. Slow down and find a place to think about it and move towards it. Whether it is good or bad, you have make it and realize it instead of dreaming it. Namaste.

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Taxes ,taxes & taxes

Taxes,taxes and taxes There is a saying "we only stop paying taxes until our coffin is nailed"。With the 2014 budget, we have a new GST (Goods & Services Tax ) and a higher RPGT ( property gains tax) and also a withdrawal of sugar subsidy. We are heading towards a higher inflation with the gradual withdrawal of Government subsidies. With the GST of 6% , this consumption tax will add taxes to all other goods and services except food stuff  This multi -layer taxes will make our lives difficult especially businessman.  A 6% taxes on the value added taxes at each level of transactions will have inflationary impact . Withdrawal of the sugar subsidy , the price of the food we eat will have an inflationary impact. So everything's prices will hike over time. When BIll Gates said that Life is difficult. He is damn right and it will get worst despite whatever the Government say or give subsidies they intend to give to the people to lessen the impact. What can we say, the Government is incurring huge deficits and the household debts are very high. Fitch and other rating agencies are watching our Government's direction on how they handle the fiscal measures.  Whatever is decided in the budget. We will need to face it and spend our hard earned money wisely. We are an intelligent animal and I believe will be able to.coup and decide well in our next election. Namaste.

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

My sweet lord.

My sweet Lord. This song was written  by George Harrison of the Beatles. The song was one of the hot favorite during my prime time. It was played on the radio and it influence the religious mood for a long time. During the prime time of the Beatles, all the members were not able to handle the fame and millions of fans and admirers. There was a period they took refuge in India and took up the practice of Meditation and the learn the art of the Sitar.  After this period of calm, My Sweet Lord was wrote by George Harrison , the 2nd lead guitarist of the Beatles band.  Subsequently, the Beatles was disband and Harrison became a recluse until he was murdered by an intruder. Another of the favorite song written by George was " here comes the sun".  Paying  tribute to  wonderful song writer George Harrison , here is part of the lyric of " my sweet lord" I really wanna know You I'd like to go with You I wanna show You Lord That it won't take long, my Lord Note: George Harrison wads believer of the Lord and not God. He wants to see in order to believe.,in this song , he was searching for the truth in God. Seeing is believing.

Hey Jude - wonderful meaning

This afternoon some one called my assistant about some business issue and his name is Jude. I told my assistant "jude" should be a female but she told me that this "Jude" is a man and he is very serious in his approach. To make the matter light, I told my assistant that there is a song " Hey Jude" by the Beatles and it was a damn good song of my time. To surprise, she told me that she also loved the song "Hey Jude". In one part of the song, the writer said that we should " take a sad song and make it better". Yes, we should be the carrier of joy and laughter and make the whole laugh and sing with us. Bring the joy to the world. Another part of the song " let it in and let it out , don't carry the world on your shoulder". Some people interprete is as making love and letting it go and do not stress yourself with the problems in this world. Be a peace loving guy and let the troublesome world evolve. This is really a peace loving song and the Beatles have brought the message to the world and bring wisdom to the way of our life. I paying tribute to this wonderful bank by showing of its beautiful lyrics: Hey Jude lyrics jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better. Remember to let her into your heart, Then you can start to make it better. Hey jude, don't be afraid. You were made to go out and get her. The minute you let her under your skin, Then you begin to make it better. And anytime you feel the pain, hey jude, refrain, Don't carry the world upon your shoulders. For well you know that it's a fool who plays it cool By making his world a little colder. Hey jude, don't let me down. You have found her, now go and get her. Remember to let her into your heart, Then you can start to make it better. So let it out and let it in, hey jude, begin, Youre waiting for someone to perform with. And don't you know that it's just you, hey jude, you'll do, The movement you need is on your shoulder. Hey jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better. Remember to let her under your skin, Then you'll begin to make it Better better better better better better, oh. Na na na na na ,na na na, hey jude...

Be a good listener

I feel like I have fallen into a web and the web is holding me very tight and I am suffocating while struggling to breath. Like a drowning man, I wanted to hold on to a straw and the straw could be you. When we are in deep thoughts or in midst of a serious problem, we want to find someone to listen to our problems. Not talking but be a good listener could provide an outlet for your loved ones and friends.Listening is a very good way of communication and the speaker will appreciate your time and effort to be there and to listen patiently. Lately, I read of an organization called " befrienders". I have learn of this organization many years ago from a friend who is active in this organization and recently, my boss also said that he is contributing to befrienders. This organization is not a match making organization and the purpose is to listen to callers who are having problems and need someone to listen to their problems. The callers are not looking for a solution offered by the befrienders but just for someone to listen to what they are feeling and what is their problem. This is a good way for the callers to release their pressure and stress in them even at the end there is no solution. My message today is that we can be befrienders anywhere if we spare the time and effort to listen to what other people is talking and acknowledge what they had said. Some times, we need only to be there and listen without offering any advise or comments. Silence is golden or people said " sound of silence" can have the calming effect on the callers or befrienders. Words can often sent the wrong message or advise. Namaste.

Monday, October 21, 2013

A day, a gift

When we woke up in the morning, we should be thankful that we are still breathing and alive. We should not take things for granted as if everyday is there for you. As we step away from our bed and every breath we take, we should express gratitude and appreciation. For this matter, we should take each day as a gift instead of as a right. If you are older and still working after retirement, we should strive to contribute something everyday. We add value to the things we do and also provide assistance to the people around us. This is to show the gratitude that we are alive and is still of value. If we do not provide anymore value, it is better to be dead than alive. Many times, we are immenese in our daily routine and wondering endlessly but we still want to live into ripe old age. Is there any meaning to live on and doing nothing but selfishly taking care of our needs and passing the days passively without purpose and aimlessly. We have to repay the gratitude of living a day longer and to bring laughter , joy and meaning to this world and the people around us. It does not matter if it is little or more, we move and do it. This is to repay the chance of living a day longer. Needless to say, we are easily drawn into the circle of life, churning in rounds and living aimlessly if we are not aware that the day is a gift to you. Namaste.

Fragile relationships -an insight

Fragile relationships There has to be a strong foundation  before any relationships can hold. Relationship that based on mutual benefits and self Internet will not last. It will be like sparrows in the woods, they will split ways if trouble comes. I have my fair share of fragile friendships and I have saw many such incidences in my life. Good friends  can quarrel over a small misunderstanding and became enemy because of a word  being said out of anger.  Some is due to promotions. Self ego, money or some hurtful relationships.  If two person is not happy together, why is there a need to stay together? It is better to depart as friends instead of as enemy. Don't let emotions control you and make the situation go beyond control Nd leading each party saying or doing  the wrong things. When we are angry. We should keep our mouth shut and do nothing. Choose a good movie to let the anger weaken and wear down. When we are hurt and angry, ego and pride takes over and we lost control of ourselves. We should turn our focus inwards and look at our self. You will be very surprise that it is not what you want to say or do. A stranger have taken over you. Long time ago, I have treated a friend  very well . Taught her all I know and guide her in doing business. When she wants to get married , she have her own plans and turned against me and blame me for not supporting her business plan. It was very hurtful and all these incidences have become bad memories. This lesson in life really make me wake up and be aware of the fragility in relationships. Only those relationships which grow out of love and care can only weather the condition of hurt, anger and ego. Don't expect anything in a relationship and there will be no disappointments. Namaste.

Sunday, October 20, 2013

Have a nice weekend.

Have a nice weekend Every Friday , we thank god that it is Friday and we can have nice and restful weekends . But, the weekends passed so fast and on Sunday night. We still think that we have not got enough and tomorrow is yet another long weekend. This routine have been in repetition for many years in my life. Through the years , I am feeling time passed faster when l  am getting old. I think it is the same for all aging folks. Maybe there. Is more to think when are are older and most of the time we are caught in our thoughts and memories. Yeah. The end is getting nearer but we should treat age as a number  otherwise we would give ourself a lot of reasons not to live . We should keep your energy and activity level and keep thinking like a young man。a lot of things depends on our mind. Our mind can be trained or guided to motivate our psychical body to re-act and to live with vigor. There is no logical rules that the young should stronger than the old. This is not the standard and it is possible the older is fitter and stronger than the young. I have seen older people perform better in sports and yoga。it is a matter of upkeep and lifestyle. Namaste.

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Our beautiful breath .

Our beautiful  breath - My yoga session today Today , my yoga teacher taught us to use our breath to guide the moment of our yoga pose. Each movement is done within each breath. As we focus on our breath , the yoga form come in naturally and easily. The movement will be graceful and smooth. I told my teacher that this way of using the breath to guide the form is like Tai Chi and each stroke is guide with the slowness and the deepness of each breath. She agreed with me that both practice have many similarity in common. I also told my teacher that walking meditation is also the same and the speed of each step depends on the breath and in this practice , the moment is broken up into more parts. I related to her that I have witnessed and amazing female westerner who walked 10 feet in 30 minutes. This is no simple feat as it  shows how deep in the control of the mind and body. This balance and harmony of these two elements is excellent and perfect before this feat can be done.  Anyway. We have to be thankful for each beautiful breath which keeps alive and well. Namaste.

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Am I stuck in a different realm?

As if I am in a different realm. Feel tired and speechless lately. I could not get out this desperate mood and still wondering within. It is suffocating and pressurized why am I feeling so strange and unable to break through. So  idly bored. Wanted to do something different , just to breakout. Have been like this a long time. Bored deep inside and have to keep a brave front and keep smiling from the outside. Just like still water which runs deep. Underneath the surface, it is churning and boiling. So restless and desperate , yet don't know what to do. Could this be the second Mano pause? I am changing and searching for myself again and wondering what actually I want in life, Is life like this ? Everyday. A set routine. Running I circles in many ways but is running in circles. The day pass into weeks and then in months and in years. Wake up every morning struggling to find my footing to stay the day. I was thankful each day and the wonderful breath I am breathing. What else do I want? In no time, we will have to ride into the twilight and never return. And that is the end of it. I am just human. Namaste.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Doing nothing?

Is doing nothing , doing some thing? This wisdom is a bit deep. The Chinese called " deep water" and in Hokkien " cium  chooi". Literally. It means difficult to comprehend . Doing.nothing is plain simple means " doing nothing" what else to say about it. Period. But, in deeper philosophical meaning, we should not be doing anything and this is the normal condition of the body.  Doing some thing is out of the normal and is an effort to do some thing. So, resting is normal and it is during this resting time, the body will have time to recover itself. Slowing down will also give us time to look into our within and make us more aware of ourself. Rushing through life is meaningless and wasteful.  Today, it was.a rest day for me and I spend most of my time resting on my couch and my wide compliant that I am lazy and  doing nothing.  Yes, I was resting and just watching TV. I told her today is a rest day , so I rest. It is not something difficult to understand. There is nothing urgent to do, so why try to find something to do. I am only doing what I should be doing , that is the norm. Come tomorrow , there will be a whole lot of task to do and there will be no time to rest.  That is life. Namaste.

Monday, October 14, 2013

It has been raining

It has been raining For past week, it has been raining either in morning ,in the evening or for the whole day. The sky has been gloomy , dark or greyish and it stirs our thoughts especially when we are driving or caught in a jam. The thoughts just came and dwell in our mind for some time before they leave you. Many memories come and go but during one morning while driving on the Penang bridge, the thought of life and death swell up in my mind. There was less traffic on the bridge and driving was very smooth and the thought just came. Life is like passing through the bridge from one end to the next. That was a journey point to point and reaching my office is the start off  of another life. Isn't it the same for you? Each journey, each day or a period of time , a life itself in the micro? It can end anytime , so we better be aware if it. Life is fragile and impermanence , yet we attach so much of our time to gather wealth or to gain fame.  We must be mad not to realize this point and start enjoying what we have. It would never be enough if we let our greed go free.  So, we better wake up and live and breath a new bout of fresh air to live differently and meaningfully. Namaste.

Brownie was naughty tonight

Tonite -,Brownie was naughty. I do not know why my dog, Brownie was not obedient tonight.  Usually, she will follow my instructions to return to her cage after I have left her out for a while to exercise her legs. During that time , I talk to her and ask her to obey my " sit" instructions at the same place every night. She has been very obedient. But , not tonight. My maid tried to  chase her into her cage but she was very playful and do a hide and seek game with her. She gave up after several attempt and she yelled for my help. When I called up to Brownie and if I point to the cage , she will run in by herself but tonight she was rebellious and continued her hide and seek routine with me.  I was very surprise and angry.  I took up a stick and smack her on her butt. The first hit was light but she keep wanting to break away and I gave another smack . She yelled in pain but still refusing to go into her cage. My maid have to keep pushing her into her cage and finally she went it. I was remorseful as I verbally keep lecturing Brownie for not following my instructions. She keep staring at me and this is her usual re-actions  when I scold her. After several verbal scolding which I don't know whether she  understand me or not, I start to gave her a pat on her cheek and I scroll my hands on her cheek and appraise her been a good listener. She waggle her tail as if she was please. I don't know whether the stick and the carrot treatment will work or not but I hope she will be obedient as time goes by. Namaste.

Sick to my stomach

Lately ,the things which have been happening really make sick to my stomach.. The US Government shutdown, the wild wild west issue, the heaven and God issue,the MCA mockery that you step down and I will step down dance routine, etc. What is happening to us all ? So much negativity and controversial matters bring our peace life to disruption and havoc. Why can't it be like before ? Peaceful and calm and everyone can get to live the life they want. All these happenings are due to politics and self interest. Can everyone come to their senses and keep politics out of our life ? There are so many crowns around and pretending to be God and decide things their own way. Yes, we can keep our head in the sand and live a happy life but there are so much unfairness previaling which creates a lot of disturbances. My friend and colleagues told me that he is not reading the newspaper anymore to avoid getting angry at what is happening. Maybe, this is one of the good way to live a happier life. Then someone called me to voice out on the TPPA issue which if our Country were to get out, it will be disastrous to all of us doing business. I know I write some comments on the topic that evil will get stronger if Goodness choose to nothing. But, how can one voice matters ? It has to depend on the people in position to do it and ratify the shortcomings instead of protecting their self interst. What can I do but only to carry the sickness in my stomach and if I want to puke, I will go to the toilet. What the hell is happening to the world. GOD save us all !!! Namaste.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Dinner at Yeng Keng , Penang

Family dinner at Yeng Keng restaurant, Penang Last night, I had a dinner with my family, my BIL and his girlfriend and my daughter's friend , E.  it is a Hainan Cafe and restaurant serving their clannish  dishes. My wife ordered two spring rolls, a " arh orh" - duck soup, a ikan Tumis , a mixed vegetable , belachan chicken and finished with a wet and dry " Sar hor Fun". The taste was averagely good but the duck soup was too heavy with herbs.  It cost about RM240 for six person.. During the dinner, we notice a lot of people eating the  crispy egg white pudding which is like a big snow hill hold together with egg white burned by a gas burner. It was really a sight to watch. Most of our topics were about catching up with what happen what in our life and what we doing to do. These were very personal topics. But a casual stroll through the heritage hotel was a wonderful experience despite my third experience there at the site. So much memories and history and so many people have passed by the place and many have died or have reborn. Namaste.

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Darkness at the expense of light

"Evil triumph ,when the good do nothing" The society have gone back to the wild wild west age, when have gone will travel and the fierce stamp over the weak and darkness pushed back the light. This will also happen when everyone only care for themselves. The recent shoot to kill or the logic of shoot first and ask later open us all to the fear of  kill or be killed scenario.  It is very frightening as it draw on us the existence of the wild wild west thinking. This lawlessness feeling is making us jittery and fearful.  This is what happen in the US where license guns are available in order to protect one's self. Are we going into that direction?  We must not encourage or cultivate this culture. If we promote the thinking of " killed or to be killed" , it will plead to dooms day. Everybody when confronted will attempt to kill first and ask later. When the darkness starts to get stronger , the goodness should re-act with same or  stronger intensity to  balance the darkness. Otherwise, havoc and evil will prevail. Evil is like lawlessness, stupidity and arrogance。There is always an agenda to promote once interest and in the process, the evil tail is expose and there is a sign for the good to re-act. The evil exist in everywhere . In a nation, in a community , in a home or in a company. Namaste.

Friday, October 11, 2013

Happiness & saddness - or perfect gray.

When there is happiness ,there is also saddness. Just like black and white but the middle is gray. Gray is the middle path ie no happiness and no saddness. I heard Ajahn Brahm said that life is fill with happiness and saddness in alternate intervals. Each feeling is between two points and the interval varies. Some times happiness last longer , some shorter and vice versa with saddness. So, if you feel saddness, it is only within two points. The length of the two points depends on you. How do you train yourself to get out of this circle ? Alternating between Happiness and Saddness is very frustrating and annoying. If you experience a high level of happinesss, then you will experience a very high level of saddness. The range fluctuate with the height of each experience. If you keep your re-action of happiness in a very low range, then you will be able to restrict the level of saddness. The up and down range fluctuate in equal length. If you train yourself to be aware of the emotions and not to re-act to it, then you have reached the Gray line , ie the middle path which is neither white or black or happy or sad. In this level, you have each the perfect level and you will find eternal peace and calm. You can achieved this level, if you train your mind to be aware and not to re-act. Namaste.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

The fear in us.

The fear in us. In  our life, there are so much fear. The fear of dying, the fear of losing our job, our fear of being lonely, etc. There are thousand and one fears. We suppressed our thoughts , our actions , our ambition, etc and suffered in silence because of these fear. Really. Why do we behave in these manner? Why can't we express ourself and break free from these fears. Why can't we speak our mind and to say "no".  We become "yes men" out of these fear.  We are trap  in these fear and live our life around it.  We can disagree to agree and still keep the relationship in our life. When we subdue to fear , the fear inside us gets stronger and take control of us. If we fear someone, that someone  takes control of us and abuse us.  Just like the saying " the devil gets stronger when the goodness  become more compassionate". Live wisely and without fear. Face fear squarely and the fear will  diminish at each confrontation. Look at it and into it and remained aware of its existence  and the fear will fade away. Namaste.

Monday, October 7, 2013

If it is the end, we don't give a damn.

Recently, I read of a phase in the FB which makes me felt the deep truth about human relationship. " Never push a loyal person to the poiint where they are no longer give a damn". This statement leaves me wondering how we treat our friends and staff. If we continued to push our loyal staff or scold them for the errors they make, this action will push them to a point that of rebellion. It is only so much a person can absorbed and beyond the tippering point, they will feel numb or having no more passion to respond. Like I say, " enough is enough" and anything more will only hit a dead point. I have noticed that are many "dead woods" in an organization and these employees have no more passion in their work and only choosing to pass their time in doing the routine work. Their fire is gone and they just drift along and doing what only needs to be done without pushing for the extras. So, how do we motivate these "dead woods" ? It is a dilemma as it could be the boss that could have resulted in the killing of their subordinates' passion and leaving them to do what they have been doing. If we lifted these tyrannic boss and also inspire these " dead woods" to perform, there is a possiblity of a resumption of their passion and also an improved contribution of these people to the company or a project. But, we should not forget the wisdom of " what goes around , comes around ". If we are good to people, people will be good to us but if we start to nasty to them, bad karma will come back to us. So, live and lets live. Namaste.

Sunday, October 6, 2013

Fate, that is what it is...

Fate , that is what it is. There is a Chinese saying " when there is fate, a thousand miles away yet we will meet. If there is not fated, when we met it is like a stranger who pass me by". This wisdom have been passed down a thousand years and we don't know who is the writer. It does not matter here. What I am saying is that in our life , thousands o people passed through our life as family members, friends, lovers, peers , strangers, benefactors , enemies, good friends, parent, etc in many roles and in many playing in our life . Some people stay longer in our lives and in many length influencing our thoughts , actions and decisions in our life. It is so strange that it is as if the script of our life have been written in advance and we are merely playing our role and acting out the script。Hence. Who we are fated to meet have fixed. If we are aware of this script and if we choose another choice  to avoid the script which we know is lay out for us, the deviating choice is like another script written out. But , it also seem that this was the original script.  So   What is real and what is false is constantly changing and we are following the script. Therefore, if we choice to skip dinner and go hungry and is away from the normal routine. It turns out that you skip the routine as in the script。You are supposed to skip the dinner and get hungry. It is because you follow the script to make that decision and stay hungry. In other words, the script have many possibilities and we can never jumped out of the script called "fate". Namaste.

Friday, October 4, 2013

I cannot be wrong

" I cannot be wrong" We are arrogant , stubborn. selfish and rigid. We are always right and please do not question us. We can do no wrong and we always  one first. This is the devilish part of our character。This  bitchy part exist in everyone of us and it is either in a small or big way and it fluctuates at each moment according to our mood and thoughts. In a polite term. We can be difficult and if it is against our self imposed principles than we can be extremely difficult. Other people could called us as stubborn old fool.  At  these difficult stance  our "I" is  very strong and we put forward a strong protective front even when we are wrong in our judgement. It is like " I will die to defend my honor and plight. Everything else is immaterial.  We become so impossible to understand. Our actions could be below comprehension and we can say words or do things that can hurt our loved ones, friends and peers if they try to bring down your defense or to prove you wrong.  By then, we. could have lost our sense of logic. After the incident, we could have lost a few friends. feel lonely and sad and we could out or cry internally at our wrongful actions and stubbornness. We realized that it was not the true "us" and as if another person have taken over us. We are back to our senses but we    could have done some incorrigible damages. As long as we aware of our "strange" self , there is still hope but we think we are right all the way, then we will be miserable and lonely. We should take these experiences and become wiser and we should try to overcome this bitchy self and to reduce the importance of the "I" and make it smaller in each attempt。To win over ourself and to be a better person. Namaste

TGF - Thank God is Friday again

The last week have been hectic. The shutdown in the US Administration on 1st October sent jitters to the global market and luckily, the investors are matured to expect that the spell is going to be short. This calms the market but today , at day 4, the loggerhead is still on and things are getting abit more tense as the US$ continued its slide southwards. Business is getting tough and the mood of every management team is getting foul and sensitive. The patchy US economy really gets edgy as the shutdown sents thousands of people going home jobless. The sentiments in the US will get worst as the shutdown bites in. I was travelling with my colleague KF and he told me that he thankful today is Friday. He has been rushing to meet his business budget the whole of September 13 and things was not so well as his profit target was below his budget. He was under a lot of pressure but he still stood firm and try to keep his jovial mood. Working for people is to meet their KPI and if we failed to meet the target, then we have to face the music or the smacking and we have to swallow our ego when we are scolded. Everybody is the same and if we make errors when the business is no good, we will be fired !!! All the contributions and hardwork is forgetten if we failed to deliver only once. If we do 10 things and 9 things excellently but we make one mistake. Our boss will only look at that one mistake and it will wiped off the 9 good things that we have done. Why can't the bosses be more udnerstanding ? Now , I know why some people cannot work under employment and prefer to work for themselves. I think it is the same. Either you are working for one boss or if you are working for yourself, your customers are your bosses and it maybe even worst. Of course, when you are successful, you can choose your customers and can act a bit tough but in the beginning, it maybe worst. This sums up my feeling for the whole week. It is exhausting and heavey . Hope next week will better. Namaste

Thursday, October 3, 2013

In the morning ...

In the morning Getting out of  bed is getting tougher and tougher as you aged. The mind wants to  get up but the body wants to stay down and get more rest. This struggle goes on internally until the mind wins the battle or the body have rest enough. In life , there are many such moments of struggle between the mind and the body.  Lets take the example of a morning after last night's yoga session.  Your body have been fully stretched out and you are having a wonderful restful night and yet your body still needs the extra earned rest.  The body is then stronger than the mind and you will stayed down in bed. It can be any event in the past night and this incident will happen. What then can inspired your mind to convince your body to move?  It will depend on the power of your mind. Do you want the  body to control the moment or the mind ? If you step back a little , you will realized that it is you to decide. You can instruct the mind to tell the body to move instead of letting the internal struggle to go on.  The moments  of conflict between the body and the mind will create unrest and turmoil and waste energy. If you are aware of this point, you should take charge and tell the body " enough is enough " and get up now if you have any urgent things to do or you want to start your life early in the day. Namaste.

Transform yourself

Transform yourself

I had  a yogi female friend and we used to practice yoga for many years and she would come into the class from work and She will lie down on her yoga mat exhausted.  I could see her transform herself into an excellent yogi.

Nowadays, she is so energetic and versatile in her pose. She attended many yoga retreats and have been fine tuned by so many yoga teacher including M , my current yoga instructor. I don't know what transpired or what inspired her。I would like to know her tippering point in her practice.

I believe  we are able to change ourselves and the power is within us. What we need is to motivate and push ourselves to change. Actually,it is easy and we need to convince our mind that we can and want the change. Start it gradually and intensify it as you get along. After many attempts you find that it is getting easier and you will start to notice that you are changing and finally a change person. Nothing is impossible.

Once, you notice the change , you are already a changed person and you will start to enjoy yourself and your life. Get out if your comfort zone and live.

Namaste.

What is age ? Geroge Carlin

> *George Carlin on age.* > (Absolutely Brilliant) ; > IF YOU DON'T READ THIS TO THE VERY END, YOU HAVE LOST A DAY IN YOUR LIFE. > AND WHEN YOU HAVE FINISHED, DO AS I AM DOING AND SEND IT ON. * > > George Carlin's Views on Aging* > > Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is > when we're kids? If you're less than 10 years old, you're so excited about > aging that you think in fractions. > > "How old are you?" *"*I'm four *and a half!" *You're never thirty-six and > a half. You're four and a half, going on five! That's the key > > You get into your teens, now they can't hold you back. You jump to the > next number, or even a few ahead. > > "How old are you?" "I'm *gonna be *16!" You could be 13, but hey, you're > gonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life ... . You *become*21. Even the words sound like a ceremony . > *YOU BECOME 21. YESSSS!!! * > > But then you* turn *30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like > bad milk! He TURNED; we had to throw him out. There's no fun now, you're > Just a sour-dumpling. What's wrong? What's changed? > > You* BECOME *21, you *TURN *30, then you're *PUSHING* 40. Whoa! Put on > the brakes, it's all slipping away. Before you know it, you *REACH* 50 > and your dreams are gone.* > > But wait!!! *You *MAKE it *to 60. You didn't think you would! > > So you *BECOME* 21, *TURN* 30, *PUSH* 40, *REACH *50 and *MAKE it *to 60. > > You've built up so much speed that you *HIT* 70! After that it's a > day-by-day thing; you H IT Wednesday! > > You *get into *your 80's and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT > lunch; you TURN 4:30 ; you REACH bedtime. And it doesn't end there. Into > the 90s, you start going backwards; "I *Was JUST *92." > > Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become a little > kid again. "I'm 100 and a half!" > May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!! * > > HOW TO STAY YOUNG* > 1. *Throw out nonessential numbers. *This includes age, weight and > height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay "them." > > 2. *Keep only cheerful friends. *The grouches pull you down. > > 3. *Keep learning.* Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, > whatever. Never let the brain idle. "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And > the* devil's *name is *Alzheimer's. * > > 4. *Enjoy the simple things.* > > 5.* Laugh *often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. > > 6. *The tears happen.* Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who > is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive. > > 7. *Surround yourself with what you love* , whether it's family, pets, > keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. *Your home is your refuge.* > > 8. *Cherish your health: *If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, > improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help. > > 9. *Don't take guilt trips.* Take a trip to the mall, even to the next > county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is. > > 10.* Tell the people you love that you love them*, at every opportunity. > > AND ALWAYS REMEMBER : > Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,*but* by the > moments that take our breath away.